I still remember my thirties Birthday. In short, I felt dreadful. I felt that it was somehow my fault that I failed at staying young. I was still a trainee lawyer. I just broke up with someone I’ve been with for a long time and I was back on a dating scene. I felt like a failure.
What a difference a few years make. When I look back now I wish I could tell to my younger self to stop fretting. Would she believe me if I told her that in her thrties everything would change for the better? I doubt it because I never believed it when other women said this to me.
Still, it’s true. There are so many reasons I love being in the thirties but I chose three, which are very important to me:
This one was kind of unexpected and I think it came as a result of not caring any more what other people think of me. It’s so liberating. I used to mentally run through my day in the evenings, worrying about what I’ve said or what someone’s remark may mean. I’m free from all that now. It translates into my work, the way I behave around other people and the way I think about myself.
Knowing what I want
and going for it. I realised in what kind of set up, professionally I would be the most happy (in short, being a boss was the only option) and went for it with “my way of highway” mindset. I stopped being scared of confrontations and letting myself be swayed with other’s visions and opinions. I know exactly where I’m going and how to get there. I figured out my method of baby steps so I stopped trying to rush things- I know I will eventually get there. Just look at what a difference five years have made.
I’ve never looked better
I lost puppy fat on my face and generally “grew into” it. I started to appreciate good things about the way I look and stopped worrying obsessively about the ones I don’t. I know what suits me and what I like and I don’t feel the pressure to follow trends. In short, I finally started liking myself. So here’s to your thirties, ladies. I promise they will be fabulous!
Coat by Jadzia Doroba
Shoes & bag- Chanel