“I know what you’re doing- hissed an ex when, yet again I declined an offer of moving to Miami Beach where he had bought a house- you want to meet a Frenchman and move to the South of France”. Well, that wasn’t really my intention yet here I am, married to The French after a whirlwind romance.
If you ever thought about dating a French guy, here’s a little guide. It based on my own experience of The French and his friends but then, I might have married a cliché Frenchman 🙂
How to spot him:
@ Look at his waist- if you see a distinctive lack of beer belly, you are on a right track. French guys like to keep themselves slim. They are not into beefing up but will do jogging, boxing or swimming- all in the name of being slender.
@ Tousled hair- if ever there was a man’s equivalent of “I woke up like this” it would be a Frenchman.
@ Cheekbones are often part of the package. They just make them like this way. I don’t know how.
@ Pink shirt? Of course! Hello well cut jackets! French boys tend to be chic in a nonchalant sort of way and seem to be allergic to frumpy clothes.
How to woo him:
@ Don’t bother, he will do all that. Just sit back and relax. Have you ever seen a trap chasing a mouse? Exactly. They are brought up this way.
What does he like:
@ Confidence. On our second date I came straight from court. The French was fascinated, asking lots of questions, wanting to know what I said and what the judge said and what I said in reply…(which was a nice change because normally people find it extremely boring so the only person you can talk to about your day in court is another lawyer). My point is- he saw me doing a court case as synonymous with confidence. It worked a charm.
@ General air of mystery- the more he kept asking the more I refused to open my cupboard to let the skeletons fall out. It kept him on his toes- and still does. Detailed disclosure? Save it for your BBF.
What he doesn’t like:
@ Snacking. People mindlessly cramming food into their mouth give him creeps. There are three meals in a day. Dinner in three hours? No problem, he will wait.
What to expect:
@ He doesn’t know dating rules. You know, all that stuff about leaving an appropriate time before a date and a follow up call that we in Britain tend to follow religiously. The French and I met on Wednesday. We kissed on Friday. On Saturday he said “Now that we are in a serious relationship…”. As far as I know that’s a common experience when you start dating a Frenchman.
@ Conversation- expect heated debates on politics, philosophy, art- whatever he’s interested in. If you don’t know much about he subject, just wing it, chances are he won’t even notice. If all else fails, ask him about France. He is truly convinced that France is the greatest country in Europe and can talk about it for hours on end. If you know history- all the better for you. Education system in France places particular importance on history lessons so chances are he will remember a lot of it. If you are a Brit, he’ll talk for hours about “perfidious Albion”. If you are a Pole like me, just say a magic word- Napoleon. We are currently on our fifth year of discussing the First Empire.
@ Food is sacred. It’s planned and talked about and meals are important part of daily routine. Forget about grabbing a chocolate bar on the go.The Frenchman will have a breakfast, leave his office for lunch and race home to have a dinner when his British colleagues go to the pub for a pint and a packet of crisps. I’m writing this post on a boat to France, a journey I embarked on with two Frenchmen. Lunch was discussed at 11 and consumed before we set sail. As soon as we boarded the boat, the Frenchmen found an onboard restaurant so they could plan an evening meal…
How to break up with him:
@ I don’t know but I imagine it’s rather difficult if you are doing the breaking up. French boys tend to be very persistent when it comes to matter of heart.
How to marry him:
@ Start with “To you or not to you, I’m getting married”. Proceed from there.
Do you have any experience with dating a Frenchman? Share it with us!
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